Sometimes when you find yourself stuck with repeated patterns in life, its time to delve deeper. You could have an underlying unhealthy belief system within you that resulted from a coping or defense mechanism you developed during childhood. If you have issues with authority or boss at work, it could very well be related to a subconscious belief or emotion stemming from your relationship with your father as you grew up.

The things we learn in our Family of Origin affects all the other relationships we will ever have. Many people grew up in dysfunctional families that resulted in damaged personal boundaries, low self-esteem, and the inability to meet life's challenges well. Family of Origin issues can also include emotional abuse, neglect, and domestic violence. How you communicate with others, hold your emotions, get your needs met, the way you see yourself and how you experience the world - are all learnt from growing up in your family.

Seemingly non dysfunctional families also have their own issues – these are very subtle, but they do exist. As children we absorb from parents or elders with whom we spend time. Their influence becomes ingrained in us as we internalize their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors even before we can speak.

To become whole, independent, and autonomous individuals, it is crucial to heal ‘Family of origin’ wounds. A healing like this should be done under the able guidance of a practitioner or expert who will help you undergo a history exercise. It involves self-exploration, understanding and discovering negative views that one may have of oneself and of the world. Whilst these views may have been true for others in the family, they don’t stand good for you in your adult life. You get in touch with your thoughts, feelings, and body sensations from childhood memories. And gain an insight on the impact of your family’s dynamics on your image of yourself, thus influencing your daily life.

Psychotherapist Dyrian Benz says “The kind of relationship we had with our family manifests itself in our present everyday interpersonal relationships, especially if we are not aware of these family patterns”.

A healing exercise of this nature brings about miraculous shifts as you change the way you view yourself, people around you and the circumstances. This helps you grow into a free and autonomous person you were meant to be and take charge of your life and shape it the way you would want it to be.